There was a question over at Elspeth's blog about how to cover your hair ... E doesn't cover, so I'm taking the ball and running with it.
Question 1: More important to submit to your husband, or to cover? Absolutely to submit to your husband. This is my conviction, my husband is good with it, but he doesn't want me to look weird. The one and only comment I've gotten from him is "I'm not going to church with you if you wear a doily on your head". (I actually gave that a try. Fashion Fail). There are multiple verses in the Bible calling for wifely submission and one verse about head-covering. Priority check? Submission.
Question 2: What does the Bible say - and what does it *not* say?
For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man. For this cause ought the woman to have power on her head because of the angels. Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord. For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God. Judge in yourselves: is it comely that a woman pray unto God uncovered? Doth not even nature itself teach you, that, if a man have long hair, it is a shame unto him? But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.
You will note that nowhere here is a real-estate provision given. How much head to cover? Ask God, ask your husband. I feel better more covered, and cover more in private and in prayer. But you will get odd looks when more covered, and insofar as I am concerned, God and the angels know when I'm putting something on my head as a symbol and when I'm just decorating. Matter of conscience, in other words.
Question 3: So ultimately, why do you cover? I tried covering for a week, I really liked how it felt, in the spiritual realm. Practically? There can be difficulties. But spiritually, I like it. And emotionally, I like putting on my submission every day.
Variants of coverings: You don't just have to put on a bandanna! Yes, that's the current "Christian covering style" ... but that's not what the Bible says.
Left to right: Headbands - some fat, some regular. Combs - some very large, they are as big as one of my hands, and they cover about as much as a yarmulke would. Snood, hairclips, and a fake flower (I wear flowers in my hair when dressed up). Bandannas, which is what I wear when I'm doing yardwork. (I don't wear them out and about, too many gangbangers here and while I doubt they think 40yo women are showing colors, I don't need the stress).
My husband's favorite thing is one of the big combs and a ponytail.
Scarf and pashmina collection: I am a big scarf girl, I am most likely to be found with a scarf tied in my hair somehow or other. The way I have it (see top) today works best with a rougher textured fabric - the satins slide *right* out. I still wear them of course, but it involves a lot of readjusting.
I'm not really too sure why people keep giving me shawls and pashminas, but they're pretty even if worn rarely. :)
Long story short: It is totally possible to wear your hair covered and still be somewhat in fashion.