Caveat: This post is written for the unmarried woman. This is meant to be advice for breaking past the "I don't want to show that much skin, but gee - the guys just pretend like I'm not there!"
My dear girls. Please let me apologize. I'm not sure where we misplaced this advice, but most of the women my age have at least some clue about these little ways of getting attention. Must have lost them in the mail. Perhaps we forgot to tell you that all clothing conveys a message - and that it is possible to convey more than one level of information at once! You can say, "I am intelligent, work hard - and I'm sweet and young and just ripe for marriage" in one outfit. Really.
Men like women. Hopefully this is not news. Men like pretty women with nice figures. Shocking. And all the girls around you have this information, and they're using it to buy bandage dresses and 5" heels.
Yes. It works. But that's not for you, because you value your modesty. But what do you do?
You can convey the message that you are a young, healthy woman with a nice figure without buying a bandage dress. What you want to do is to convey first that you are a woman - radiate femininity. Men like women, rule one. The next thing you want to do is to draw attention... to your face. Draw the eye to your best features. (Smile lots, by the way - and light makeup is good). The third thing to do on the physical level is to wear clothing designed to show that you have a nice waistline and soft curves on either side. (Soft but trim: Yes, that's what they want. Trim = young/fit, soft = fertile).
Wear clothing that moves. I love a good sundress... but any long, loose-ish skirt has potential. Light fabrics in the warm weather - the floatier the better. Wool with plenty of swish in cold weather - look cozy.
Your clothes should be designed to make you look more feminine than you already are. They should have plenty of color - but generally not super bright. Pink is a winner. Blue & white? Perfection. Men don't LIKE the "latest thing". You're dressing for men now, not for your girlfriends. (Fashion is women dressing for women). Let your colors flatter you... if you have coloring like Snow White, okay - wear the red. But maybe the white dress and the red bow belt might be better than a red dress?
You want to look approachable. Clean cut enough that you don't freak them out (kitch is not on this list. Save it for your maiden aunt), enough fluff to soften the edges. Wear clothing that makes soft noises or that looks soft and touchable. (There's not a man born who can resist an angora sweater - don't wear it on a date though, okay? You will be petted).
Light perfume - something that smells at close range, something personal and memorable, but something nice. Don't wear just anything. Baby powder is better than really perfumy-perfume.
That having been accomplished, what you can pack away to clean the bathrooms: Thick denim. Thick tshirts, or tshirts that aren't tailored for a woman's figure. Androgyny sends a strong signal these days - there are five women who can ignore this advice, if you're reading this you're not them. Anything that completely conceals your figure (that fisherman's sweater or the denim jumper). Clothing that looks hard or industrial or androgynous (no twee tuxedos).
Going to work? Buy a silk blouse. Charmeuse, something thick and not immodest. Plain and simple, maybe a bow neck - go vintage. Wear your jewelry, always. It's completely work-appropriate to look pretty. You'll be expected to wear a more tailored skirt at the office... nice fabric is your next best friend. Don't overdo the pink at the office, though. Can backfire. Do wear a nice sweater - something fine gauge, nice buttons. Details are important.
Color. Texture. Movement. Sound/smell. Sparkle - in your eyes. Don't be afraid to be pretty. Every other girl is going for 'sexy'. Pretty is *your* game, work it to the max.
Pinterest boards: http://www.pinterest.com/hearthrose/feminine-and-flirty/
Color psychology: http://www.pinterest.com/hearthrose/color-evokes-emotion/